"Leaving" someone tied up?

[Daborey]

Hi all,

Let me start this off by saying that when playing TUGs or engaging in some sexual play, I never leave my partner, mainly out of safety and trust concerns. Maybe leave the room for 10 seconds to grab water from the other room, but then left the door open.

However, I know some people (including myself) fantasise about the thought of tying someone up and just leaving them there, or being tied up and left.

How do you think something like that could, if even possible, be practiced safely? Or do you have examples from how you put it in practice? I'd love to hear it!

[kiwi]

So I actually had some recent expedite with this with my wife.

She had me semi-wrapped up in plastic wrap and left me on the couch in our room while she went off to get ready for bed (brushing teeth, etc). She had left my headphones in and a blindfold on while letting me listen to a podcast.

But what I discovered is I actually didn’t like it… also a factor was I wasn’t truly secured (I was able to get out on my own rather easily) but I think that a lot of people like the idea in fantasy, but the reality of being alone and tied up wasn’t very fun for me. I quickly got bored and freed myself after about 30 minutes of sitting there, before going and discussing with her. I was never truly alone, she was only 20 feet away and kept checking in on me (not verbally though, just visually , so I didn’t know she was still there).

I have to say I really didn’t enjoy it at all…

[illest]

The concept to me is kinda hot. With engaging in self bondage a lot I'm kinda used to being by myself tied up. However not so sure about being actually helpless in that spot. Though the thought still excites me.

-Being tied up in a cupboard or armoire while a party is going on downstairs and every so often the wife sneaks up to "check on me"

-Being tied up in.a closet for a couple of hours

-Being tied up in a locker in a university for the night(the most unlikely and probably fantasy-wise the most dangerous but the most exciting to think about)

There's a certain "peril high" that hits me with the thought of being left alone at some cabin or basement tightly bound with the thoughts of whether anyone would come rescue me, or whether I'm on my own to escape or stay bound, especially if it's really tight. Or worse, if my captor comes back and makes my bonds/predicament even stricter! It reminds me of a Villa video where he hogtied a girl on a small bed, but the girl somehow wriggled herself off the bed while he was gone. So he gave her a stricter gag, tightened the bonds, tied her ankles to the bed on one end and tied a neck rope on the other side to keep her from squirming!

[Silkyscarves]

My wife ties gags me in bedroom & sometimes just goes watching one her tv programmes lol or leaves me in closet but she has a baby monitor on watching me but it’s exciting feeling like I am left alone tied gagged

[captured_prize]

If you're going to do this, compromises have to be made with the gag. This means no stuffing whatsoever. I recommend a basic tape gag or a combination of tape with an otm gag on top.

[AlexUSA3]

Funny this topic came up because I actually started a story in which egregious safety violations occur with the goal being for the perpetrators to get a good "dressing down" on how reckless such games can be.

https://www.tugstories.blog/viewtopic.php?t=23852

[Mister The Edge]

I did this one. I left my bottom loosely tied to a chair with a massage wand. She wasn't gagged, safety scissors next to her, phone in reach, and I was gone for a few minutes.

[TapeBondage123]

This is my fantasy as well. The usual scenario when my wife ties me up is she'll leave me in the bedroom to struggle. However, I'll always have my phone and a pair of scissors within reach, won't use any mouth stuffing, have a baby monitor in the room where she can listen in, and she'll sit in the living room on the other side of the wall within earshot. It works well for me as it's just enough to fulfill the feeling of being left alone without actually being left alone. Truly leaving someone while bound and gagged will always carry a lot of risks as a lot of normal inconveniences or normal everyday experiences can become life threatening (vomiting while gagged, allergies and a stuffed up nose while gagged, etc.)

[Redman]

Although I've never done it IRL, I have a plan in place for if I ever have a sub wants to be left alone. I leave the room and gradually lighten my steps outside the room so they think I've walked away. But in reality, I'd be right outside the room, listening for any signs of distress.

[Terry]

Being left alone while just being tied up but without a gag might be okay.

[TheCaptiveHousewife]

Hi all,

Let me start this off by saying that when playing TUGs or engaging in some sexual play, I never leave my partner, mainly out of safety and trust concerns. Maybe leave the room for 10 seconds to grab water from the other room, but then left the door open.

However, I know some people (including myself) fantasise about the thought of tying someone up and just leaving them there, or being tied up and left.

How do you think something like that could, if even possible, be practiced safely? Or do you have examples from how you put it in practice? I'd love to hear it!

Not safe at all.

This happen to me when I was young; I was tied up by my abusive brother, and left tied up, alone. I'll admit I went along with being tied, but didn't know I was going to be abandoned.

He did come back and untied me, about an hour later.

[superduperwaveydavey]

All TUGs carry some risk but there is no doubt that leaving someone alone massively increases the risk. Whilst left supervised, they could have a medical episode, breathing difficulties, circulation issues or go into panic (which could be very distressing itself).

I fantasise about being left alone while tied up but I’ve never truly been left alone. My wife has tied me up and left the room but supervised me from afar. For example, she has tied me up in the bedroom and then decided take a bath in the en-suite but with the door open and talking to me (well verbally teasing me) the whole time. She has also pretended to leave the house and stayed silent while supervising me.

A good and safer alternative is sensory deprivation using a blindfold and some noise cancelling headphones It can make it feel like your are alone and can be pretty intense.

[KidnappedCowboy]

If you're going to do this, compromises have to be made with the gag. This means no stuffing whatsoever. I recommend a basic tape gag or a combination of tape with an otm gag on top.

Exactly! You must compromise. I never leave a man alone tied up and gagged. I may add a blindfold and pretend I have left, but I will remain within easy reach, if anything should happen. The guy (or gal) may suddenly panic and hurt themselves trying to get free. So, never leave someone alone if he/she is bound and gagged.

My other advice: Plan everything out ahead. Use safe words indicating stop or slow down. If the man or woman is gagged, some physical signal or type of grunting can substitute for words.

Remember it's only play, but Play Safe!

[TightsBound]

My friend has used a baby monitor in the past. The best was the first time when I not only didn’t know it was there, I also didn’t know he could talk to me through it. He could check on me, but mostly taunt me about not being able to escape or play annoying songs while I couldn’t stop him.

These days he’s a little more modern and has an Alexa box in every room for the same purpose.

[Fitambo]

Me and my wife had experimented with this a few times. She has tied me to the bed naked a few times and left the room.

A few times she has just gone and watched tv or back to work (she works from home most of the time) while I’m tied to the bed naked with no gag so I can call for help is an emergency happens.

We have semi serious joked about her leaving me in a hotel bed tied up naked then leaving me for house keeping to find. We both like the idea of it and have come close a few times to doing it. We always get the sober thought that it’s not fair for the house keeper to walk in on it without consent and the consequences the whole thing could bring.

[NR47]

I'm like a lot of you here, if I was tied up by a partner I was never left completely alone, but checked on periodically. There's always the element of sensory deprivation (I'm bound and gagged with a really good blindfold that blocks out everything, and headphones playing music) so I can be tied up for several hours and have no idea when I'm being checked on, which was also interesting because one girlfriend said she would watch me for long periods of time before leaving the room, but because she walked in the room softly I usually had no idea when she was there, and could never tell when I was being watched.

[angim350]

Hi all,

Let me start this off by saying that when playing TUGs or engaging in some sexual play, I never leave my partner, mainly out of safety and trust concerns. Maybe leave the room for 10 seconds to grab water from the other room, but then left the door open.

However, I know some people (including myself) fantasise about the thought of tying someone up and just leaving them there, or being tied up and left.

How do you think something like that could, if even possible, be practiced safely? Or do you have examples from how you put it in practice? I'd love to hear it!

Not safe at all.

This happen to me when I was young; I was tied up by my abusive brother, and left tied up, alone. I'll admit I went along with being tied, but didn't know I was going to be abandoned.

He did come back and untied me, about an hour later.

Ah that's grim I would ask if you would be comfortable sharing the full story of this, but it sounds like it wasn't a nice experience for you, so I'm sorry

As for me, when I was around 12, I think, a friend of mine tied me up in my room. At first, I was quite laid back about it, but then I realised I couldn't get out. I was rolling around struggling and she left me to it for about half an hour. No matter what I did, I truly couldn't free myself. I wasn't gagged and wasn't in the house alone, and only tied up with some laces, but I didn't want to call out for help.

Eventually, she came back up to find out where I was and let me go... after making me ask her nicely several times lol!! I really didn't want anyone else to see me like that. What was worse was that a few weeks later I tried to use the knots she did to tie up another friend and utterly failed.

Years later, me and my gf at the time were fooling around and she tied my hands to the bed posts. She nipped to the bathroom and I tried to free myself for fun (I hadn't really up to this point). To my surprise, I was tied really well and knew I would have a hard time freeing myself, if indeed I would be able to... it was doubtful as my hands were really secure and I couldn't get at any knots. Thankfully, she came back not long after and untied me, but I did think I'd be a bit screwed if she hadn't.

Awks convo with her mum lol!!

[Mumblestilskin]

Being left tied up by my wife is my favorite fantasy.

We enacted it a few times whenever she hooked up with her girlfriend (side piece). I figure if she's having fun, then so should I.

She would tie my hands behind my back then leave the house to spend the night with her girlfriend. I wasn't gagged, my feet weren't bound, and I could still access my phone in an emergency. I also had access to a serated steak knife to cut myself free if needed.

We used 1/4" nylon rope which is rather sleak. After 2-3 hours of struggling the knot would eventually loosen and I could get free.

Unfortunately, my wife is no longer with her girlfriend and she doesn't share my love of bondage. It's been years since we played.

[bondagelawyer]

Well, I guess you have to "trust" in the person being left tied up. In the sense that they are healthy and unlikely to suffer too much due to long term bondage. Of course the bondage itself can't be "unhealthy".

Once that is complete you just have to make sure to return in time to get them out (if they haven't freed themselves) and make sure no one else gets there before you (to avoid embarrasing explanations).

[silver_orion]

I usually pretend to leave only to stay in the other room or at ear distance.

[Red86]

As someone who's into full sensory deprivation, I've done it and experienced it myself. Obviously if you play smart and safely (as you should) the dom is always nearby but the sub has no idea if they are 2ft or 20ft away. Gives you the feeling like did the dom walk out of the room or fall asleep on them. It's definitely an head trip but when you fully trust your dom and know they won't actually leave you fully alone, it's fun to just zone out. I've even fallen asleep during this.

I've also left my sub while I went and got a shower and had the same done to me. For safety reasons, there was no gag but you are technically left alone. And if you are blind and deaf, you have no idea when they are finished, if they are back and are just "ignoring" you, as you are likely to lose your sense of time fairly quick.

[tiedinbluetights]

Like most posters on this thread, this is a really hot fantasy of mine as well. However, as also pointed out, compromises and additional safety tools have to be put in place. My wife and I have played often with the "illusion" of her having to "leave" me tied-up.

If I'm blindfolded so I cannot see her, ear-plugged with loud music piping through so I cannot hear her, gagged and forced to smell dirty underwear tied over my nose so I cannot smell her, and otherwise tied-up and restrained to a soft bed over a carpeted floor so I cannot even remotely and possibly use some sort of magical blindsense (I play DnD) to detect her presence, then the illusion is complete. I even wrote a story about it in the true story for adults section.