"Leaving" someone tied up?

[Daborey]

Hi all,

Let me start this off by saying that when playing TUGs or engaging in some sexual play, I never leave my partner, mainly out of safety and trust concerns. Maybe leave the room for 10 seconds to grab water from the other room, but then left the door open.

However, I know some people (including myself) fantasise about the thought of tying someone up and just leaving them there, or being tied up and left.

How do you think something like that could, if even possible, be practiced safely? Or do you have examples from how you put it in practice? I'd love to hear it!

[kiwi]

So I actually had some recent expedite with this with my wife.

She had me semi-wrapped up in plastic wrap and left me on the couch in our room while she went off to get ready for bed (brushing teeth, etc). She had left my headphones in and a blindfold on while letting me listen to a podcast.

But what I discovered is I actually didn’t like it… also a factor was I wasn’t truly secured (I was able to get out on my own rather easily) but I think that a lot of people like the idea in fantasy, but the reality of being alone and tied up wasn’t very fun for me. I quickly got bored and freed myself after about 30 minutes of sitting there, before going and discussing with her. I was never truly alone, she was only 20 feet away and kept checking in on me (not verbally though, just visually , so I didn’t know she was still there).

I have to say I really didn’t enjoy it at all…

[illest]

The concept to me is kinda hot. With engaging in self bondage a lot I'm kinda used to being by myself tied up. However not so sure about being actually helpless in that spot. Though the thought still excites me.

-Being tied up in a cupboard or armoire while a party is going on downstairs and every so often the wife sneaks up to "check on me"

-Being tied up in.a closet for a couple of hours

-Being tied up in a locker in a university for the night(the most unlikely and probably fantasy-wise the most dangerous but the most exciting to think about)

There's a certain "peril high" that hits me with the thought of being left alone at some cabin or basement tightly bound with the thoughts of whether anyone would come rescue me, or whether I'm on my own to escape or stay bound, especially if it's really tight. Or worse, if my captor comes back and makes my bonds/predicament even stricter! It reminds me of a Villa video where he hogtied a girl on a small bed, but the girl somehow wriggled herself off the bed while he was gone. So he gave her a stricter gag, tightened the bonds, tied her ankles to the bed on one end and tied a neck rope on the other side to keep her from squirming!

[Silkyscarves]

My wife ties gags me in bedroom & sometimes just goes watching one her tv programmes lol or leaves me in closet but she has a baby monitor on watching me but it’s exciting feeling like I am left alone tied gagged

[captured_prize]

If you're going to do this, compromises have to be made with the gag. This means no stuffing whatsoever. I recommend a basic tape gag or a combination of tape with an otm gag on top.

[AlexUSA3]

Funny this topic came up because I actually started a story in which egregious safety violations occur with the goal being for the perpetrators to get a good "dressing down" on how reckless such games can be.

https://www.tugstories.blog/viewtopic.php?t=23852

[Mister The Edge]

I did this one. I left my bottom loosely tied to a chair with a massage wand. She wasn't gagged, safety scissors next to her, phone in reach, and I was gone for a few minutes.

[TapeBondage123]

This is my fantasy as well. The usual scenario when my wife ties me up is she'll leave me in the bedroom to struggle. However, I'll always have my phone and a pair of scissors within reach, won't use any mouth stuffing, have a baby monitor in the room where she can listen in, and she'll sit in the living room on the other side of the wall within earshot. It works well for me as it's just enough to fulfill the feeling of being left alone without actually being left alone. Truly leaving someone while bound and gagged will always carry a lot of risks as a lot of normal inconveniences or normal everyday experiences can become life threatening (vomiting while gagged, allergies and a stuffed up nose while gagged, etc.)

[Redman]

Although I've never done it IRL, I have a plan in place for if I ever have a sub wants to be left alone. I leave the room and gradually lighten my steps outside the room so they think I've walked away. But in reality, I'd be right outside the room, listening for any signs of distress.

[Terry]

Being left alone while just being tied up but without a gag might be okay.

[TheCaptiveHousewife]

Hi all,

Let me start this off by saying that when playing TUGs or engaging in some sexual play, I never leave my partner, mainly out of safety and trust concerns. Maybe leave the room for 10 seconds to grab water from the other room, but then left the door open.

However, I know some people (including myself) fantasise about the thought of tying someone up and just leaving them there, or being tied up and left.

How do you think something like that could, if even possible, be practiced safely? Or do you have examples from how you put it in practice? I'd love to hear it!

Not safe at all.

This happen to me when I was young; I was tied up by my abusive brother, and left tied up, alone. I'll admit I went along with being tied, but didn't know I was going to be abandoned.

He did come back and untied me, about an hour later.

[superduperwaveydavey]

All TUGs carry some risk but there is no doubt that leaving someone alone massively increases the risk. Whilst left supervised, they could have a medical episode, breathing difficulties, circulation issues or go into panic (which could be very distressing itself).

I fantasise about being left alone while tied up but I’ve never truly been left alone. My wife has tied me up and left the room but supervised me from afar. For example, she has tied me up in the bedroom and then decided take a bath in the en-suite but with the door open and talking to me (well verbally teasing me) the whole time. She has also pretended to leave the house and stayed silent while supervising me.

A good and safer alternative is sensory deprivation using a blindfold and some noise cancelling headphones It can make it feel like your are alone and can be pretty intense.

[KidnappedCowboy]

If you're going to do this, compromises have to be made with the gag. This means no stuffing whatsoever. I recommend a basic tape gag or a combination of tape with an otm gag on top.

Exactly! You must compromise. I never leave a man alone tied up and gagged. I may add a blindfold and pretend I have left, but I will remain within easy reach, if anything should happen. The guy (or gal) may suddenly panic and hurt themselves trying to get free. So, never leave someone alone if he/she is bound and gagged.

My other advice: Plan everything out ahead. Use safe words indicating stop or slow down. If the man or woman is gagged, some physical signal or type of grunting can substitute for words.

Remember it's only play, but Play Safe!

[TightsBound]

My friend has used a baby monitor in the past. The best was the first time when I not only didn’t know it was there, I also didn’t know he could talk to me through it. He could check on me, but mostly taunt me about not being able to escape or play annoying songs while I couldn’t stop him.

These days he’s a little more modern and has an Alexa box in every room for the same purpose.