My first time (M/F)

[Mariners116]

Part I

This is the story of the first time I was able to tie up a women. I was about 27 years old (M) and I got to tie up my friend from college, a 25 year old woman. She is reasonably nice looking. We bonded very deeply in college over a shared love of many things. We also hung out with a large group of mutual friends at a medium sized university.

I was so incredibly shy about my interest in tying women up that I can't believe it eventually happened. From the time I was a young boy I was pretty ashamed of my interest in tied up women. I thought there was something wrong with me, even dangerous, so I kept it hidden, but I always nurtured fantasies. Usually I was the one rescuing the bound and gagged damsel, but sometimes I was the one tying her up. It varied. As a young boy, I became very, very interested in cartoons that would frequently featured tied up damsels, like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Inspector Gadget, etc. Whenever April O'Neil or Penny would get into a bondage predicament (especially if gags featured), my heart would race and I never understood why.

Eventually I became so comfortable with this woman, "Emily", that I started pushing boundaries. There was a joke for a skit that a group of our friends were doing where one of our female friends was "kidnapped" and she was playfully bound and gagged with duct tape. I referenced that once to Emily, asking her if she would have let them do that to her. She would reply with stuff like, "I don't think so..."

One of our friends once much later joked to a group of us about doing a skit where some of our friends would have been, in his words, "blindfolded and gagged." Once alone with Emily, who wasn't there for the joke, I told her about it and asked if she would have let him gag her. She replied that she "would probably gag on the gag." I pushed the boundary a little further, feeling that she was very comfortable with me, "What if it was me? Would you let me gag you?"

She replied with a smile, "I would let you gag me." Hmmm...interesting.

Eventually, some time later, over texts, I would reference that and joked about tying her up. She didn't dismiss it. Feeling bold, I asked her what she would let me tie her up with. She replied, "something soft." I asked if she would let me tie her up with rope. I really wanted to tie her up with rope because I basically wanted to recreate my childhood fantasy of seeing a woman tied up like in the cartoons I watched as a boy. She said "ok" to the rope. I asked her if she would be ok if I gagged her. She said, "I assumed that would be part of it." Eventually we set a time and date where I would go to her apartment and tie her up. I almost couldn't believe it was happening.

I went to the hardware store to look for rope. I had never tied someone up before, but I knew I needed something flexible enough to easily tie knots and somewhat soft. I found some white nylon rope which was perfect. I bought about 60 feet of it. I also bought some duct tape. I was very picky about the duct tape, it needed to be thick, strong and sticky.

I took the rope home and cut it into four segments, two segments about 25 feet each and two more smaller segments. I used some small pieces of tape to cover the ends of the rope so they didn't fray. I knew exactly how I wanted to tie her up. I wanted to tie her wrists behind the back of a chair, tie her chest to the back of the chair, tie her thighs to the seat of the chair and tie her ankles together. And I knew exactly how I wanted to gag her. I have an extremely strong attraction to white gags (again, April O'Neil and Penny, typically gags in cartoons are white). But unlike the cartoons I wanted to cleave gag her because as I grew older I discovered a strong attraction to cleave gags (Joanna Lumley in Class Act is my ideal). OTM gags are nice, but there's something about the invasiveness of a cleave gag in the mouth of the damsel and the garbled muffling which makes it very exciting to me. But what would be a proper thing to gag her with to recreate this? Dish towels are not usually long enough, nor shaped exactly right (although A. Lyden's scene in Prison Break may have proved me wrong). Pillowcases could work, but I decided on long white tube socks. Socks were of a perfect thickness, perfectly colored white, and long enough to tie around her head and behind her neck. I bought a package of them on Amazon and when they came they were lovely. I inserted one sock into another sock to increase the thickness to my preferred level. I also included some smaller socks to add a very thick center if I preferred (think Suziey B. in Entrance). I was ready for my date.

[summerbreezes]

Like the details how you picked up materials carefully for bondage. Thank you for your writing.

[Mariners116]

Part II

To be clear from Part I, Emily and I knew each other for about seven years when I tied her up. We were very, very close. The bold bantering back and forth about bondage had been going on for a couple years before I finally mustered the courage to ask if I could tie her up. None of this happened quickly and it only happened because I felt supremely comfortable with her. I was still very shy about all this at this point. I basically had believed that if I ever asked a woman if I could tie her up it would be met with a scream and a slap in the face. It wasn't until I was older that I realized that many, many women are into this sort of thing or at least sympathetic to the fact that many men want to tie them up and they don't find that necessarily creepy or off-putting. As another female friend of mine put it, "it's a pretty typical male fantasy." Knowing this now makes me wish I was slightly bolder in my younger years. But live and learn.

I took all the rope, socks and duct tape and put them into a bag and headed over to my friend's house. She greeted me warmly. She was wearing a hoodie from our college, dark blue jeans, white socks and black dansko shoes. I suspect that she had been eyeing me stealing one too many glances at her feet since I found that particular combination attractive for whatever reason. I put the bag of good on the floor and we talked for a little while. She excused herself to the bathroom and I got ready. I had been to her apartment many times before. I knew she had a perfect chair for this because it has a narrow back and she could easily put her arms behind it. I took the chair and set it in the living area. When she got out she looked at the chair and gave me a knowing look like "now?" I said, "have a seat." She complied. I gently took her arms and pulled them behind the chair and crossed her wrists. Tying up someone for the first time is a bit of a discovery. I obviously didn't want it to be painful for her and I needed to respond to her potential discomfort, but I also wanted to tie her up firmly and effectively. I took one of the smaller segments of rope I had cut, found the center of it and wound it around her wrists. I eventually discovered after many times of doing this that it is more effective to wind it around the outside of the wrists a couple of times, then pull it between the wrists to cut the slack between the wrists, and tie it a few times while looping it around. But I was new to this and did the best job I could. She only responded once with "not so tight" and so I loosened it a tad.

I took one of the larger segments of rope and started winding it around her upper body and securing it to the back of the chair. I wound it slightly above and below her chest area. I pulled that as tight as I could. I did the same with her thighs, tying them together with the longer strand of rope and then to the bottom of the seat. All the while she's looking at me without much of an expression, just watching. I finished with her ankles. I grabbed the last smaller segment of rope and knelt down at her feet. I took her shoes off (I had taken her shoes off at times before, this wasn't new behavior) so I could tie her ankles tighter together. I wound the rope around the hem of her jeans. Her socks were pristine white and soft. As I finished, I patted her feet because I liked the feel of them. She smiled and let out a soft giggle. Now for the gag, the real payoff.

I took the long white tube sock and held it in both my hands. She saw what I was doing and watched me as I came over to her. She obediently just opened her mouth for it and I placed it in and pulled it firmly back. She dropped her head a bit and let me knot it firmly under her ponytail. It was fairly thick and tight, though not incredibly so. She just looked at me with that gag in her mouth like, "ok, now what?" I remember really being entranced by the gag (my favorite part of the bondage) and how it sat in her mouth. That, to me, makes up so much of the attractiveness of the gag. She didn't close her mouth totally around the center of the gag, it was a bit open. It sat nicely wedged between her teeth. I talked and asked her a few questions. She could speak pretty well through it. I could understand what she was saying, though it was a big garbled. I mostly just couldn't believe that after all these years I finally had a woman tied up in front of me. I remember my mouth being dry and my heart hammering. I asked her if she could get out and she struggled for a bit and found her way loose after a minute. I retied her again firmly.

She stayed tied up for over an hour. After some time I added a blindfold with one of the other socks. I decided to play a bit of a prank on her and I knocked on her door as if someone unexpected had come to visit. She reacted with sudden fear and started to work herself loose. I told her it was only me and she laughed and called me a name.

We would do stuff like this over many years. She would let me tie her up in different positions, hogties, on the couch instead of the chair, hands in front, behind. I used duct tape several times to tie her up. I taped her mouth many times, though I never wound it around her head since I thought that would be too painful to unwind. We would just chat while she was bound and gagged. I never got the sense that she liked it or was into it, I think she just did it to humor me. Sometimes I would visit and we wouldn't do it, but often we did. I got better at tying her up to the point where a couple times she couldn't escape. The gags mostly remained white socks, though duct tape was often used. Even though I really like the look of a single strip of tape over a woman's mouth (like Cameron Diaz in A Life Less Ordinary), I realized how stupid and ineffective it is. The same is true for OTM gags, though I love their look and used them on her several times, mostly recreating my fantasies with April and Penny. I always loved it when she would refer to gags (though she didn't do it often) and it formed in me a love for hearing women speak about gags or being gagged. Even so much as hearing a woman say the word "gag" would get my heart racing. It's such a lovely word to hear them say. I found the most effective way to gag her which I preferred was to use a small sock which is placed inside a larger sock, basically creating a nice, thick, soft bit which fills her mouth. When she was gagged like that I couldn't understand her or really hear her very well. I knew if I really wanted her to be gagged that was my method.

Time marched on and she since married and has kids, though I still think about that time in my life often. It was a great gift.

[Dpsiic]

Great story, you’re a lucky bloke. Thanks for sharing.

[Yatta9999]

That was a fantastic, and very cute story! Thanks for sharing it! It's really adorable that you eventually got to the point where you'd just tie her up when you visit and you'd hang out.

I realize you went over a bunch of other times you tied her up with simple details, but are there any other specific scenarios that stand out?

Oh, you mentioned that you've taken off her shoes in the past. Why'd you do that? I'd imagine she'd take off her shoes herself if she wasn't tied?

[Mariners116]

That was a fantastic, and very cute story! Thanks for sharing it! It's really adorable that you eventually got to the point where you'd just tie her up when you visit and you'd hang out.

I realize you went over a bunch of other times you tied her up with simple details, but are there any other specific scenarios that stand out?

Oh, you mentioned that you've taken off her shoes in the past. Why'd you do that? I'd imagine she'd take off her shoes herself if she wasn't tied?

I took her shoes off for a couple reasons. The first is that it’s actually easier to securely tie her ankles if you can press them together which is much easier with her shoes off. The second is that I really liked her feet in white socks which I sensed she knew hence the reason she wore them. Sometimes before when we’d hang out I’d take her shoes off and rub her feet when she was wearing white socks. I liked their look and feel.

Most the times when I tied her up start to run together as variations on the same experience. I’ll try to think of another memorable one and relay the story if I can.

[Yatta9999]

Thanks for the details!

So you took her shoes off and rubbed her socked feet. I guess bare feet isn't your thing, but that's cool - we each got our own!

I'm looking forward to hearing your next memorable story!

[Mariners116]

I think that the only things that really stand out in particular were when I tried to recreate scenes that were significant to me growing up. Her and I didn't really do much of any "role playing" because neither of us were that into that. She's not an actress and I'm not an actor. She more of had the approach that "Well, guys have both a desire to be dominant and also a desire to rescue damsels, so it's a natural thing" which opened her up to allowing me to tie her up when we got to that point in our friendship. While not all women are open to such things, it occurs to me now that many, many women are. It's all about getting to the point in the relationship where they feel comfortable with you and also how it's approached and whether it's respectful.

I recall once in college talking to a female friend of mine who was a local actress. I brought up the fact that I had seen an advertisement for Urinetown and asked if she knew that play. She said she did. I mentioned that the actress is bound and gagged for like the entirety of the second half of the play. I asked her if she would be ok with being bound and gagged. She replied, "As long as they unbound and ungagged me" with a wink. It only occurs to me decades later that she was likely sending an invitation that went right over my head. It goes back to the theme of me being not confident and oblivious when women were sending me signals.

I was open with "Emily" about being very attracted to it as a young boy and she was like "yeah, that makes sense." I showed her particular scenes that stood out to me, TMNT's espisodes "April Foolish" and "Burne's Blues" as well as Inspector Gadget "Greenfinger" and Wishbone's "Slobbery Hound". One moment I remember was a TMNT scene with April when before she's gagged she looks at the gag and says, "I sure hope that's clean." One time before gagging her she said, "I sure hope that's clean." That's about the extent of the role playing.

I remember one scene that stood out to me as a kid was when one of the turtles was tied up and had a sock shoved in his mouth. It didn't excite me as a kid because I was never attracted at all to guys getting tied up, but it was something I wanted to do to a woman. One time when I had her tied up and blindfolded I decided I would do it. I knew she would be ok with it. The blindfold was good, I knew she couldn't see out of the corners or see what I was about to do. We were just talking while she was tied up and I asked her a question that I knew would elicit a long response. When she started speaking I took a rolled up ankle sock and stuffed it into her mouth. I liked the sound of surprise that came out of her before it was muted. She sat there with the sock in her mouth for a while before spitting it out.

I remember trying to recreate the mouth taping of Diaz in a Life Less Ordinary and finding it tough to find just the right tape. Most the duct tape I would find sucked for the purposes I wanted to use it for. I was very particular about its size, shade of grey, thickness, and stickiness. She would occasionally let me tape her up which was impossible for her to get out of and I would have to use scissors to cut it. It's much more effective than rope. I discovered that it's actually pretty difficult to tie someone up well with rope if you care about not hurting them (which most of us do). It's not impossible, but it's difficult. 90% of the time she could escape in a couple minutes even when I thought I tied her up well. I only was able to completely tie her up so she couldn't escape like twice.

One moment in particular that stands out to me I guess was having her tied up on the couch basically recreating the scene from Tom and Jerry Meet Sherlock Holmes when Red is bound and gagged on the couch, except the gag was white, not brown. I liked that one a lot.

Blindfolds never really did much of anything for me since they weren't really a regular feature of cartoon damsels when I was growing up, unlike gags which did a ton for me. I remember being really attracted when she wouldn't be able to speak to the point where I could understand what she was saying and she would get frustrated. But most the time she could talk reasonably clearly through the gags.

[Yatta9999]

Thanks for the many details on the history of your tie-ups. It's really an interesting series of experiences, and you got to do a lot!

Can I ask more questions?

Did you ever tie up anyone else?
Has she ever been barefoot while tied up (I realize it's not your thing, but I'm wondering if it happened)?
What was it like to hogtie her?
Any other positions such as being tied while standing up (like to a pole, or just standing), lying on a couch instead of sitting, or with arms at sides and rope wrapped all around, or ankles tied to chair legs?
Ever give her a foot rub while she was tied up?

[Mariners116]

Thanks for the many details on the history of your tie-ups. It's really an interesting series of experiences, and you got to do a lot!

Can I ask more questions?

Did you ever tie up anyone else?
Has she ever been barefoot while tied up (I realize it's not your thing, but I'm wondering if it happened)?
What was it like to hogtie her?
Any other positions such as being tied while standing up (like to a pole, or just standing), lying on a couch instead of sitting, or with arms at sides and rope wrapped all around, or ankles tied to chair legs?
Ever give her a foot rub while she was tied up?

I have never tied up anyone else.
I don't recall her ever being barefoot while tied up, but if she was I probably wouldn't remember it
Hogtying her was only an occasional thing I did to try it to see how it was. It's not really my thing. And it wasn't particularly tight or anything. As with most the time I tied her up, she could escape fairly easily.
I never tied her to a pole (there was no pole to tie her to anyway). I tied her up while she was standing because that was easier before I would sit her down unless I was tying her to a chair. I tied her up on the floor a few times, but again her being on the floor wasn't really my thing. I just did it occasionally to mix it up. Almost always she was in a chair or seated on the couch.
I never tied her arms just at her sides, her wrists were almost always behind her back (occasionally I would tie them in front). I frequently tied the ankles to the chair legs instead of together. That's actually pretty effective.
I gave her foot rubs while she was tied up often.

[Yatta9999]

Cool. Shame you never got to tie up anyone else, but also super cool you had a friend you could consistently tie up who was totally okay with it. I wish I had that! I've tied up a few people (I took photos a few times in the past but since lost them, though I do have photos of *one* ex-classmate I tied up when we were in our mid-20s and she visited once), but your experiences seemed to be more quality (of people) than quantity. (And you have more experiences in quantity too!)

The (socked) foot rubs are pretty cool too. The fact that you and your friend were just hanging out and chatting, except she happens to be tied up, and you sometimes give her foot rubs. That's quite an experience!

[SilverLinings]

Fun story, sounds like a very great experience for you (both of you...I bet she enjoyed it just as much!)

[Ovi1]

Nice story, makes me reminisce about a few missed opportunities of my own

[Alboreland]

I have also used a sock rolled inside another sock as a gag. Another idea is to roll a thigh high stocking in another stocking which creates a sort of ball gag that is soft and the mouth closes over it. Plys no drooling. Both are very effective gags.

[MrBind]

Thanks for sharing; you did well in college!