How do you get someone to tie you up?

[New_Girl_McKenna]

Sooo, this seems like the kind of place to ask this. There’s this guy I like and he has no idea, but I’ve been kinda thinking about him tying me up a lot lately. It’s super embarrassing and I know if I asked him I’ll probably get made fun of. But does anyone here know how to get someone who barely notices you to tie you up?

[TasteTheSun]

First of all hun there's nothing to be embarrassed about, you're at a stage of your life where you're figuring a lot out about yourself and the world around you.

My advice, don't worry about it. Which I know is easier said than done when you're a teenager but you'll grow and you'll have plenty of time to do this kind of stuff when you're older.

If you like this boy, make friends with him, get to know him and let him get to know you. Jumping straight to "I want him to tie me up" is only gonna cause problems, trust me love.

The community here seems really cool and we'll help you out where we can to navigate this life, but just relax, basically haha

[New_Girl_McKenna]

@TasteTheSun You’re right, I know. I’m not really scared to talk to boys I like and I’ve talked to him a couple of times but I think there’s other girls he likes more.

[TasteTheSun]

I know what you mean love, honestly idk what circumstances you're in, but the best thing you could do is talk to a female family member about this, not a bunch of strangers on the internet

[New_Girl_McKenna]

@TasteTheSun I wish, but thank you. You’ve been very kind to me

[TasteTheSun]

You're welcome love

[captured_prize]

It’s super embarrassing and I know if I asked him I’ll probably get made fun of.

Adults can be judgemental, but teenagers are absolutely brutal. For the sake of your social life at school, it might be best if you keep this to yourself. Instead, use this time to explore your interest in bondage. Your tastes and preferences are going to continue to evolve at your age and you'll even discover new things about yourself even into adulthood. Don't be in a rush, you have a whole life of bondage adventures ahead of you.

[JFBound1]

I agree with what @TasteTheSun says. Better to discuss this with someone like a trustworthy female relative like your mother (who knows you better and is way better equipped to help you with personal things than strangers on a forum) who can help you think through and understand things rather than ask people on any website. I can tell you there are some less than savory characters online that will try to get their hooks in you and try to use you for their own messed up agendas or that don't care for or consider safety and would tell you to just go do any kind of thing that requires a whole lot of risk and knowledge. Stay safe.

[Redman]

Often, the simplest solution is the most effective. Just ask him.

[New_Girl_McKenna]

@captured_prize Tell me about it. But I do want to keep exploring, just can’t get it out of my head sometimes especially when I see him like I did a little bit ago. But people on here have been helpful, thank you!

[New_Girl_McKenna]

@JFBound1 She’s a smart lady! And it’s been nice that everyone I’ve talked to is looking out for me! Sadly my family is super religious mostly and my mom definitely is. But I’ll make sure to stay safe, thank you!

[Dpsiic]

Has @TasteTheSun says talk to someone you trust. This is all about trust, once you are tied up you are very vulnerable. You have to think what wil the person who tied you be doing whilst you are tied? Will they honour your safe word etc? It took me ages to get the courage to tell my wife of my love of bondage.

This can be a fun world, it’s imports it stays that way.

[FacelessMage]

As a right geezer who has been tying ppl up and occasionally getting tied myself for ages now, I can definitely say that friendly conversation with a truly trusted friend is the crucial starting point. I can lecture all day about bondage, safe kink exploration, the psychology behind restraint, etc. But like everyone has been saying, it is ultimately about trust. A true friend you trust deeply will be understanding and not be judgemental towards you even if they end up not being interested. That being said, welcome to the community

[Silver_noro]

At your age (if it's real), I would try to find someone you REALLY TRUST for this kind of "fun".
Teenager boys can be "spiteful" because they just started puberty and sometime they could lack self control.

Once you get tied, will this guy respect your bounderies? Will he willingly let you free when you want to stop using the safeword (or gesture if you're gagged)?

I don't want to turn you down but TRUST is the basic when you temporarily "forfeit" your freedom.
Sometimes you will read here that the real dom is the the person tied up because he/she is the one who decide the pace of the game.
This is true but only with trusted and reliable people.

Take your time, don't rush sweetheart!

Speaking from my experience, I started pretty early and I NEVER LET ANYONE but my older brother to tie and gag me till I found my actual husband

[copperfox]

@JFBound1 She’s a smart lady! And it’s been nice that everyone I’ve talked to is looking out for me! Sadly my family is super religious mostly and my mom definitely is. But I’ll make sure to stay safe, thank you!

Just speaking from my perspective, I also grew up in a “super religious” (Christian) home, and I also consider myself very religious. We have always been very open with our teenage daughter when she has questions, and would never hesitate to have this kind of conversation with her if she brought it up. As a parent, I would much rather have her talking to us as her parents than to others (Internet strangers or even friends) about these kinds of things who might either (a) not have the best of intentions, or (b) may not be able give her the best advice given their lack of real life experience.

As others have mentioned, you have tons of life ahead of you, so don’t rush into anything. Be smart, cautious, and safe!

[rtbw]

@New_Girl_McKenna I agree with other people here who say trust is key. I don't think you're anywhere near the level of trust you need for that to happen if you're talking about a boy who barely notices you.

I've shared on this forum before about when I first told my then-girlfriend about my superhero bondage fantasy. It took me about a year to feel I can trust her with that secret...and I was secure in my relationship with her when I allowed myself to change into my outfit as Robin the Boy Wonder and then have her tied me up and torment me.

I feel like you need to build up a relationship with him. You don't even need to be boyfriend-girlfriend, but you need to be in a good place with him where you know he'll respect you and your boundaries.

I also agree with other people you can talk with other trusted people about this, but I also understand if you don't want to talk with your mom about it. I would never talk with my parents about this side of me, and I bet very few people would either with their parents.

The last thing I'll say is I've wanted so many girls and women to tie me, but I waited a long time before that happened. I'm really glad I did

[New_Girl_McKenna]

Wowww so many responses! Thank you everybody for being so nice!!

[Knowledge]

I agree with Jjdeel600. Gauge his reaction to bondage material when it is presented onscreen. I would use that to decide whether or not to tell him based on his reaction to that material. Best of luck to you!

[mserika]

Lots of people in the reply have made good points about trusts. It can be real scary to actually let someone tie you up, even more so if you're both not familiar with each other.
Like others have said it would be best to make friend with him and get to know each other better before you want to bring the conversation up. At your age you're still developing, so if it didn't work out I'm sure you would have more opportunity to try it with other people in the future. Hope you do stay safe, and take your time to explore!

[cellofello]

If you like this boy, make friends with him, get to know him and let him get to know you. Jumping straight to "I want him to tie me up" is only gonna cause problems, trust me love.

I second this advice. It applies just as much to old geezers like me and middle-aged people as it does to teens. In an everyday setting, going up to a stranger or even a casual acquaintance you're attracted to and immediately talking about sex or kink is likely to get very awkward very fast even for a female doing it to a male. If you can establish a friendship and basis for trust - both that he will respect your boundaries and that he won't ridicule you for your interest - then you can think of ways to broach the subject.

And if you find that despite your efforts, he's just not that into you, well, you just need to accept it and move on. I've been on both sides of that coin.