Stories of Tie Up Games

Hi TUG forum!

I haven't posted in quite some time, yet I do have some drafted true TUGs from my teen and childhood years I've been writing so hoping to post them soon.

My dilemma I'm having now is that I'm 26. I still LOVE being tied up and tying up. I am lucky enough that when I go 'home home' I have a friend who is more than happy to tie me up as a one off but is no longer interested in being tied. I find it difficult to bring it up with my new friends, even ones I'm very close with, whilst I now live in London. I have a sideline interest in magic tricks in general so have always previously managed to bring it up loosely it as part of some card tricks or something along those lines.

I worry so much that they see it as more a kink now I'm older when I still just love it for the fun of it rather than the fun I used to have as a child. I did try to open up to one of my closer friends last year about it who was quite dismissive and said it was weird. This has thrown me into turmoil. Is it weird? Maybe as an adult I should stop wanting to be tied and being tied and just enjoy the memories from being younger?

I don't want to lose hope but also, from going from having quite a few friends I was comfortable talking to about it and having those fun TUG experiences, I'm now at a loss and I suppose just really miss it.

And just to summarise my most recent experience which was wonderful and I'm finishing up writing at the moment below. I'll throw the full finished story in True TUGs tomorrow hopefully.

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It was a few years ago, my university kitchen/living room. My housemate Will and I had been doing some card magic when it turned to rope magic, turned to who can escape the ropes. He managed to escape first time. However, he tied me really well, every limb seemingly, so he could get back to writing his dissertation in peace. He had me tied up and tightly gagged on our living room sofa with the TV on. He occasionally came to check on /taunt me which was good and had left the TV on where it was showing one of the Harry Potter films. I was starting to worry at this point someone might come back so thought it would be a good opportunity to actually try and escape.
I shall leave what happened next for the full story but I'm sure you might be able to see where it's going haha.

Thanks you in advance for reading my query and your help. x

i feel that completely, the good news is theres loads of people in london that are into that.

and if it makes you feel any better i’d definitely tie you up

sidenote, what kind of magic do you do

gaggedinbriefs wrote: 1 month ago Hi TUG forum!

Welcome Back

gaggedinbriefs wrote: 1 month ago I haven't posted in quite some time, yet I do have some drafted true TUGs from my teen and childhood years I've been writing so hoping to post them soon.

Looking forward to your stories

gaggedinbriefs wrote: 1 month ago My dilemma I'm having now is that I'm 26. I still LOVE being tied up and tying up. I am lucky enough that when I go 'home home' I have a friend who is more than happy to tie me up as a one off but is no longer interested in being tied. I find it difficult to bring it up with my new friends, even ones I'm very close with, whilst I now live in London. I have a sideline interest in magic tricks in general so have always previously managed to bring it up loosely it as part of some card tricks or something along those lines.

I worry so much that they see it as more a kink now I'm older when I still just love it for the fun of it rather than the fun I used to have as a child. I did try to open up to one of my closer friends last year about it who was quite dismissive and said it was weird. This has thrown me into turmoil. Is it weird? Maybe as an adult I should stop wanting to be tied and being tied and just enjoy the memories from being younger?

I think we all can relate to that dilemma. While I only love to be tied-up, and only ever tied-up those who really begged me to do so and promised to tie me up after (as I never really had any interest in being the captor--but I digress), I can relate to the difficulty of bringing it up with close friends, especially when they most probably will link it to a kink instead of something that can be done for just its own innocent fun.

To be honest with myself, while I do mostly enjoy being tied up as a means to relax and manage anxieties, I occasionally also do it for kinky titillation. And even if I start off doing a TUG just for just relaxing, I can stay bound for hours on end, unless it eventually turns kinky.

So I am not surprised that people who don't get our "need" to be tied, would see it as kinky, and doubly so for those of us who also desire to be the captors. While some may be accepting that sometimes we just desire to be tied-up just for the sake of being tied-up, it is far more difficult for them to accept and understand the desire some of us have to tie-up and be the captor.

But please do not give up hope Life is full of wonders, and you are only 26! When I was that age I nearly gave up hope ever finding a TUG partner, and then I met a very special someone with whom I'm still married to all these years.

gaggedinbriefs wrote: 1 month ago It was a few years ago, my university kitchen/living room. My housemate Will and I had been doing some card magic when it turned to rope magic, turned to who can escape the ropes. He managed to escape first time. However, he tied me really well, every limb seemingly, so he could get back to writing his dissertation in peace. He had me tied up and tightly gagged on our living room sofa with the TV on. He occasionally came to check on /taunt me which was good and had left the TV on where it was showing one of the Harry Potter films. I was starting to worry at this point someone might come back so thought it would be a good opportunity to actually try and escape.
I shall leave what happened next for the full story but I'm sure you might be able to see where it's going haha.

Thanks you in advance for reading my query and your help. x

I love this little RL story. You should edit the title of your main post to add "M/M" as there is a story and it should be gender tagged. Our little board here needs more stories like this, where two adults can have some non-kinky, totally platonic and friendly, TUGs.

Welcome back, @gaggedinbriefs! Looking forward to reading your stories, so post away when ready.

This is absolutely a problem that most (if not all) of us who like being tied up (for whatever reason) face. Wanting to be tied up is weird. And by “weird”, I simply mean that most people, if asked, would say that it’s not normal behavior. Interestingly, many polls on the subject would find that “most” people are, in fact, lying. But I digress.

Embrace being weird! This is probably easiest to understand when you realize that there is no such thing as “normal” anyway. And if there were—well, that just sounds boring. With every passing year, I also find that I care less and less about what other people think of me. Why should I? So they think that my hobbies are weird or even deviant? So what? Now, that doesn’t mean that I’m going to shove my love of bondage in everyone’s face—but if they find out and are “turned off” by it…who cares? It’s not like I can change who I am (or would want to), it doesn’t negatively impact any aspect of my life (quite the opposite, actually!), and well…it doesn’t affect any naysayers in any way at all.

To your question of should you just “stop wanting to be tied up”? Yeah, good luck with that. . Everyone’s different, but personally speaking, my love of being tied up is a foundational and core part of who I am. I don’t just want to be tied up—i need it. My point here is really to say that, if you’re like most people here (I think)—your love of being tied up isn’t something that you’ll just be able to “put away” and not think about again. For me, at least, this would be impossible and be extremely detrimental to my mental and emotional health!

What is your living situation right now? By yourself, with roommates, in a dorm? You don’t have to answer here, but I ask only to relate this to my situation back in college 20 years ago. I lived in an apartment with a few friends, and obviously had other friends over on a regular basis. At the time, no one (not a single soul) knew that I liked to be tied up—and I never felt comfortable enough to start that kind of conversation. So, I just decided to take a more passive approach and see what would happen. I had a cork board in my room where I hung all the normal stuff—photos, schedules, movie stubs, etc. I got out a pair of S&W handcuffs and hung those on the board as well. That way, anyone who came in my room would obviously see them. Long story short, some friends never said a thing, others made comments, while a few would even begin playing with the handcuffs and asking me why I had them if the first place (which was what I’d been hoping for!). That started lots of conversations, which ultimately led to me giving several friends spare cuff keys as a backup.

I like this approach (and of course, it’s one of many), because it’s more passive and puts the ball in their court, as it were. And, you have the added benefit of being able to relate it to your interest in magic! I found this approach seamlessly opened up lots of conversations that otherwise would never have taken place, and with some that I would never have expected to begin with. It was also generally easy to gauge how “interested” someone was and how far the conversation might go. On occasion, it led to someone getting handcuffed then and there.

To emphasize @tiedinbluetights’s point, you’re very young and have plenty of time to figure all this out anyway. There’s no need to lose hope or be in turmoil about it—but I know that’s much easier said than done.

Lastly, might I ask what you love about being tied up? You said that you like it “for the fun of it”. Do you find it relaxing or exciting? Or are you interested in it from a more “escape artist” perspective? This is always an interesting question for me, as we all have our different and unique reasons for loving what we do.

Good luck!

Too bad London is so far away or I'd help!

You have a decent chance at finding somebody, though.

copperfox wrote: 1 month ago
What is your living situation right now? By yourself, with roommates, in a dorm? You don’t have to answer here, but I ask only to relate this to my situation back in college 20 years ago. I lived in an apartment with a few friends, and obviously had other friends over on a regular basis. At the time, no one (not a single soul) knew that I liked to be tied up—and I never felt comfortable enough to start that kind of conversation. So, I just decided to take a more passive approach and see what would happen. I had a cork board in my room where I hung all the normal stuff—photos, schedules, movie stubs, etc. I got out a pair of S&W handcuffs and hung those on the board as well. That way, anyone who came in my room would obviously see them. Long story short, some friends never said a thing, others made comments, while a few would even begin playing with the handcuffs and asking me why I had them if the first place (which was what I’d been hoping for!). That started lots of conversations, which ultimately led to me giving several friends spare cuff keys as a backup.

I like this approach (and of course, it’s one of many), because it’s more passive and puts the ball in their court, as it were. And, you have the added benefit of being able to relate it to your interest in magic! I found this approach seamlessly opened up lots of conversations that otherwise would never have taken place, and with some that I would never have expected to begin with. It was also generally easy to gauge how “interested” someone was and how far the conversation might go. On occasion, it led to someone getting handcuffed then and there.

I wish in retrospect that I'd done this in college myself. Was never brave enough

This problem is really common for us all, isn't it?

Why don't adults play cowboy, like children? Well, some do. But it's not common, and yes, it looks a little bit silly, these grown women playing this kind of game. All the more, I admire them for having their fun anyway!

Others have said, at 26 you're still young. Look at me, approaching the dreaded 50, and I'm still dreaming of playing tie-up with friends. But who wants to see someone like me tied up??

Well, there are ways. Like the time I wore a straitjacket on Halloween. And see, @TheOldPirate who gave me the idea in the first place, and his cute damsel, are even older than me, and they play their games just like that! Just look at the awesome happenings he tells about in his postings.

I believe the older I get the less ashamed I am. At 26 I dreaded the idea of people knowing about my bondage thing. How many opportunities were therefore lost! Today I occasionally drop hints here and there, e.g. crack kinky jokes, and I have a "rope bunny" t-shirt (only insiders will understand it).

A while ago, I "came out" to an old friend of mine. She lives a few hundred kilometres away today, and we're both happily married. We were talking about that "do a thing that scares you every day", and I knew immediately what that thing would be for me. So in a WhatsApp audio message, I told her that I like bondage, and indeed, it was a very exciting thing to do. I was part ashamed, part proud of my courage to tell her, and the hours waiting how she would react were really thrilling! Well, she took it kindly, and she had never suspected anything, so I had hidden it well all the time.

I wonder what happens when we meet again. Which is difficult because of the "few hundred kilometres" thing. But will we talk about it? Or even do anything? Will I demonstrate them my method of tying myself up? No idea.

Hi All,

Thank you so much for these lovely replies. It's quite easy to feel a bit alone in what excites you. Especially with this being so niche. It's been so wonderful to read through these and immediately feel not as alone.

Yes completely agree @uemndlr - it's amazing knowing that it isn't just a phase, I'll still enjoy it when I'm older and that there are lots of ways to incorporate TUGs into things!

I've always found it to be a relaxing thing - as well as the mild peril it brings which mirrors that of the TV shows I remember growing up.

I've had a chat yesterday with a friend who I was messaging and I've mentioned to them about the card tricks I do - and that I've recently been reading some magic books which involve rope escapes and I'm keen to try them out. So they're coming over on Sunday !

Thanks again for helping build the conffidence. Especially @tiedinbluetights @Quadpen @copperfox

I owe you all one x

gaggedinbriefs wrote: 1 month ago Hi All,

Thank you so much for these lovely replies. It's quite easy to feel a bit alone in what excites you. Especially with this being so niche. It's been so wonderful to read through these and immediately feel not as alone.

Yes completely agree @uemndlr - it's amazing knowing that it isn't just a phase, I'll still enjoy it when I'm older and that there are lots of ways to incorporate TUGs into things!

I've always found it to be a relaxing thing - as well as the mild peril it brings which mirrors that of the TV shows I remember growing up.

I've had a chat yesterday with a friend who I was messaging and I've mentioned to them about the card tricks I do - and that I've recently been reading some magic books which involve rope escapes and I'm keen to try them out. So they're coming over on Sunday !

Thanks again for helping build the conffidence. Especially @tiedinbluetights @Quadpen @copperfox

I owe you all one x

glad i could help!

Don't be ashamed of those mildly kinky fantasies you have; act them out with sane people and have a lot of fun doing it.