Stories of Tie Up Games

I just finished about an hour long bondage session in which I was tightly stretched in a spread eagle position. Now, normally—I want my bondage to be extremely comfortable and relaxing. Tonight, I decided to go a bit further and see how much my body could really handle. It wasn’t extremely tight (as in I didn’t have any issues with circulation or hands/feet tingling), but I’m definitely much more sore than I’ve been before.

About half an hour into the spread eagle, I really began to feel the soreness in my arms and inner legs. After an hour, though I was absolutely glad to be released, I think I could have stayed tied up a while longer if I had to, which leads me to my questions. Have you ever been fairly sore while in bondage (due to the position you’re in)? Do you like it that way? Do you try to push through the aching and try to relax anyway? What do you do, and how do you feel once you’re able to take your mind off the soreness? I’m not concerned from a safety perspective (if anything is wrong, I’ll be let out), but it seems really exciting to see what’s on the “other side” of the pain (if that makes sense).

I’ve done similar things in the past (that I think I’ve mentioned here) that involve struggling to fatigue in a hogtie position. When that happens, I’m sore and my muscles are aching, but I absolutely enjoy the intense relaxation that comes afterwords (it’s almost like an out-of-body kinda feeling). In a spread eagle, it’s quite different in that there’s no “let up” when being stretched out.

I have on one occasion fallen asleep while cuffed behind my back (was absolutely exhausted that day, usually I can't manage it.)
Woke up quite sore in my shoulders and luckily didn't have to go anywhere the next day because my wrists might have raised eyebrows.

So I don't have the memory of the process, as it were, but it was an interesting feeling to stretch out again when I let myself out.

copperfox wrote: 1 week ago [...] Have you ever been fairly sore while in bondage (due to the position you’re in)? Do you like it that way? Do you try to push through the aching and try to relax anyway? What do you do, and how do you feel once you’re able to take your mind off the soreness? I’m not concerned from a safety perspective (if anything is wrong, I’ll be let out), but it seems really exciting to see what’s on the “other side” of the pain (if that makes sense).
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To 'see what's on the "other side" of the pain' totally makes sense to me. It is what I enjoy about tight bondage. While I love being tied-up comfortably for extended periods, I am also a masochist. I feel here a need to explain that as a masochist, I don't tolerate nor enjoy any pain; in fact I hate and avoid pain and discomfort as much as possible. It's just very ultra-specific pains and discomforts in very limited contexts that I enjoy.

Being in tight bondage that induces some pain and discomfort as in muscle soreness is one of those very limited contexts. I love to have my arms tied above my head to a bed's headboard, like in a spreadeagled position, or in an elongated "mummy" capital-"I" shaped position. However, any position for me where my forearms and wrists are above shoulder position, whether tied to a bed, chair, or standing, will cause soreness and stiffness to set into my shoulders after 30 minutes or so.

So what I do to get to the "other side" is I start to do micro movements, twists, and contractions, as much as my bonds allow, to ease the pain. I also think of my wife/mistress/captor, and how I would do anything for HER, endure any discomfort and pain for HER. That helps extend the time a bit beyond the point where I usually safeword out.

What's on the other side? 1) Personal satisfaction that I've lasted in the uncomfortable position longer than my usual 30 to 45 minutes; 2) On rare occasions, a deep dive into subspace and once released and the soreness returning, fond memories of the moment.

It is on those rare occasions where I also get a deep sense of connection to myself as well as a profound admiration for, and sense of connection to, my wife who caringly indulges my kinks. And while the muscles may be sore for a couple days after, I have a sense of serene calmness about me making the soreness not only bearable, but worth it.

However, I need to emphasize that my wife and I are always careful and she knows my limits (as well as her own limits to what she is willing to see me endure). So concern for safety, while not explicit, is always present. The goal, after all, is to be able to reproduce the much sought after subspace in any number of future tie-up/bondage sessions, even if it slips away and cannot be attained in the session at hand. So most of the time, 9 times out 10, I'm more likely to not ride it through to the "other side", I just be repositioned into a more comfortable bondage position.