Stories of Tie Up Games

What best describes your partner’s attitude towards bondage?

My wife and I enjoy a good bit of bondage in the bedroom, but (admittedly) this is primarily for my benefit. She’s certainly not a kink-minded kinda person, and primarily engages in bondage-related activities because (1) she knows its a a sure-fire way of getting me in the mood, and (2) she knows how much it means to me on a deeper, more personal level.

Outside of a bedroom/sexual context, unless she’s extremely tired or too busy doing something else, she’ll happily help secure the last few locks of a bondage position…then release me when my predetermined time is up. This is a win/win—as she’s often studying or working from home—and the opportunity provides her with some much needed (and well-deserved) “peace and quiet” for a bit.

Going with in and out of the bedroom, though for me it is “partners” plural. In the context of tie up fun with my main partner - Mostly in the bedroom, but I’ve always had a fascination with discreet public bondage For example, in the passenger seat of a car in a secluded parking lot makes for some good tie up fun!

I’m going to answer this based on my longest relationship (14 years, 8 of those married) that ended a couple years ago. Basically my answer is a weird blend of a few of the poll options. At the start of our relationship she said she enjoyed having a man in control, and thus enjoyed the bondage games we would play, regardless of if they ended sexually (though they often did). As the years went on she got less and less enthusiastic about it, eventually to the point where she was only doing it for me and would be visibly exasperated when I would bring it up. This is actually a key factor in why our marriage failed. I realized bondage wasn’t just a want for me, but a need. I just never wanted to admit that to myself.

My wife isn’t into bondage. She used to indulge me but as we have got older she doesn’t want to play anymore.

Generally people I have been in a relationship with have been very good about it, but struggle to understand why I like it. I just wish there was a way to help them to enjoy it the way we (this community) does

I went with

My partner enjoys some level of bondage, but this is primarily limited to the bedroom, and will rarely (if ever) engage in TUGs outside the bedroom.

My wife, and only TUG partner, is not into it as much as me, but I'm very fortunate that she does indulge my fantasies from time to time, and has even initiated the TUGs on occasion. Outside the bedroom too, but rarely.